Every child in this world is unique. They have their own personalities, physical appearances, talents, and interests that may be different or similar to other children. Their individual tastes and traits make them special in the eyes of their parents. However, these same unique characteristics can separate them from their peers. A scenario like this can end up with bullying, poor academic performance, lack of self-confidence, and depression. Even for kids who are confident, this can happen at any stage of their lives. It intensifies as they grow older and start to mingle with other children their age.
It is most difficult when your kids are in middle school because it is the stage where children experience puberty. Middle school students are usually 11 to 13 years of age, and this is the time when hormones cause them to be emotional and have physical changes. As a parent, it is your responsibility to guide them so that they will be able to cope properly, helping them boost their self-esteem.
This article will give you tips on how to help kids fit in.
The first thing that you, as a parent should do is to make your children understand that they are not alone. Let them know that they can talk to you anytime about anything. You can inquire about their day when they get home from school. A sure way to maintain interaction between kids and the family is to have family dinners every night. An old tradition that sometimes is lost in today’s day and electronic age. This way, you can start conversations that may let your kids open up their feelings and thoughts to you. If you ever notice your child being inactive and unusually quiet, you can approach him privately and ask about things that bother him.
Children who have trouble fitting in are usually self-conscious. They tend to think of themselves as unaccepted by their peers so their tendency is to draw away from them. You can tell them that they are not the only one experiencing this difficulty. Their peers may be having a hard time adjusting, too, but they are handling things pretty well. Encourage them by saying that they can do the same.
You have to inspire them to pursue their uniqueness. It helps them accept that every person is different and has a distinct personality and appearance. Help them realize that being unique is not a bad thing. You can share stories where the characters are exceptional. Such stories help them relate their situation to the hero of the tale. You should know what their interests are and support them to engage in activities that are related to their likes.
Encourage them do what they enjoy by letting them participate in the deeds they like. If they like sports, give them the opportunity to join a sports team. The same is true for kids who like art, dancing, singing, martial arts, and other hobbies that may allow them to grow and prosper as a person.
When children are having a hard time fitting in, they often feel lonely and friendless. Help them find ways to join youth groups that match their interests. This way, they will be able to find friends that are fascinated with the thing that appeal to them.
There are many thing that a parent can do to help kids fit in. Be a supportive parent to your child while they are growing up. But most of all, be their biggest fan.
Contributor: Renshi Adam McCauley
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