Commitment is a virtue that is developed when someone learns to persevere in accomplishing goals. Commitment is also what’s needed in maintaining strong and lasting relationships. It is important for children to learn this, so they know how to achieve and keep what’s important to them.
Teaching about commitment can be challenging for most parents, especially at this modern time. Nowadays, everyone is busy with so many different things. Modern parents are also committed with having their kids exposed to different experiences so they become “well-rounded” individuals.
This kind of lifestyle and mentality is what impedes parents in teaching commitment to their children. They expose their kids to too many things that there is barely enough time to fully focus on one experience.
If you are caught up in that same routine, you’ll notice it isn’t helping your child learn commitment. To teach your kids how to become committed individuals, it’s best to do things that serve as commitment models to them.
Here are some of the best ways you can teach and demonstrate commitment to your kids:
- Become their role model in working towards a goal. Parents are the best teachers of commitment. You must show your kids how to dedicate time and effort in achieving a goal. It doesn’t matter how big or small it might be. Whether it’s learning how to bake or earning that elusive black belt in karate, working towards a goal teaches commitment. When you show them how you work hard towards your own goals, they get a clear idea of what commitment is.
- Demonstrate a strong relationship with your partner. There is no better way of showing commitment than maintaining a strong relationship with your partner. When your kids see how you and your partner work out problems together, they learn that you are both committed to each other and the family.
- Join them and ask them to join you. You can help your kids learn to persevere in an activity by joining their efforts. When you take part in a project or homework, you express that those activities are important and should be accomplished no matter what.
- Give them reminders that motivate, not annoy. Kids who are used to doing many things tend to leave some tasks unfinished so they can move on to the others. If they forget to go back to something, just give them a gentle reminder while they’re on a break. Don’t pester them while they’re still busy doing something because they’ll only get annoyed. You can better encourage them if you approach them in a positive manner, when they’re in a positive mood.
- Explain the value of patience and perseverance in life. Support your commitment actions with verbal encouragement. Explain to your kids how patience and perseverance help in reaching a goal. Reinforce the idea that they can get good results and rewards when they work hard on something.
- Play games that require perseverance. A fun way to learn commitment is to play games with them that require them to persevere. Examples of this are finishing puzzles, building Lego blocks, and playing board games.
- Encourage and support them in activities they like. Instead of focusing and forcing your child to do different things in one day, you should focus on what piques their interest. You should realize that what you might like for them might not be so likeable for them. When you support the activity that they really like, you encourage them to keep at it and become committed to its accomplishment.
Teaching commitment is a lifetime process. It should be part of your daily life because your kids learn from you continuously even when they get older. Parenthood itself is a lifetime commitment. If you show your kids that you are always committed to them, they’ll likely do the same as well.
Contributor: Renshi Adam McCauley
Your Neighborhood Martial Art’s Instructor.
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